We want to live in a place where everyone loves you. We want to be loved and cherished. This is the most essential thing that will create peace within you. Knowing that everyone appreciates you and loves you for who you are. Making people to love you is super easy. Do you want to know how? Stick with me through the content.
I know you may be the nightmare of some people. People just hate you. You may fail to understand why do people hate you. Have you ever abused them? Have you ever did something wrong to them? Have you been manipulating them? What I know, there will be always a reason to why people will wake up and put hatred on you.
We have some cases where it happens, people hating you. Some people are jealous and envy. They are driven by their internal gluttonous desires. They may want to be better than you. Seriously, they might just want just to make you feel inferior. These kind of people do exist. You might have never done anything wrong to them, but they have been developing a strong hatred to you.
When you try to investigate, you might find out that they envy your progress in life. No matter what you do to please them they end up commenting negative about you, make your life miserable while you try to make them happy. They will go some extend of terminating you, if you won`t be careful enough.
You have to know that these kind of people do exist. They are every where. It is so hard to change them, but if you have the potential you can transform them. Appreciate their existence. It brings the balance in the universe. How would the world be if everyone thing was just the way we wanted? I`m telling you life would be boring. You would not admire to be in the this world. Something I would like you to know, life that gives you a challenge is a wonderful one.
It teaches you how to grow emotionally, physically and emotionally. Life changes from one stage to another. The changes that it comes with it, makes the life amazing. It makes you struggle more to learn new things and how to solve different challenges.
People will love you and appreciate you when they know you are a caring person. You should be caring and understanding. How can you portray your kindness? Life is full of wonders. It brings different situations with different way of handling it. You cannot use the same way you used to handle your problem back in 2003. It is obviously outdated.
When someone approaches you with his/her problem. You should use this opportunity to make that person feel very comfortable around you. That person came to you only because he/she trusted you. Being open to anyone when you have a problem is pretty big deal. When it about expressing how you feel before someone, it must have to to your realization that was the right person to trust.
People think first before approaching you. They have to identify your character and how you have been interacting with people around you. So consider it a plus, when someone comes to you to seek your help. When this person now explains out his/her problem it is your high chance to develop the connection between the two of you.
People have different problems. Someone might be in need of your help to solve a certain problem, and you end up to find that is the same problem you are facing. How can you develop the connection between the two of you? Check it out to the next paragraphs.
The first thing consider your self in the same situation. Make the problem yours. This will connect you to the person you are trying to help. When you make the problem yours too it gives you a clear way of how you can help this person. The person will understand how you feel about him/her. He will get more encouraged to listen the ways you will give him or her to solve his/her problem. This is what is called empathy.
Empathy can make you win people`s heart without a blink. This is a skill that everyone of us should posses when we want to be loved. Putting yourself in someone`s shoes it does not mean that when the person you are trying to help cryies and you cry too. Now, who will be helping the other if both of you are crying.
Be a supportive listener. Listen to every word word she/he is saying. If you are a talkative person like me, then you should learn how to control your tongue. It is not your turn to give out your opinions. You have to let the person talk. Give him/her humble time. Paraphrase some of the words he/she is saying. This will encourage him or her to continue talking. Don`t do it so much. He/she might think you are imitating him. A reason for him/her thinking you are mocking at him/her.
All this needs a personal discipline. It will be impossible for a person to portray this if he/she lacks it. Listening is one way to make someone feel you do care about how they feel, is also a way to make someone know you value him or her. This will create a strong relationship between the two of you, andhere is when love will develop. You will be the first person he/she will always think of talking to when he/she has a problem.
Will this not develop love?
Still on the part of empathy. Which I have determined it as a perfect way to make people love you. When someone wants to know if you really do care how he or she feels, he/she will look at how you respond or react to his/her problem. The sitting posture matters so much. It will be completely opposite of what one would expect when he/she tells you about his/her problem and then, you sit and lean on the sofa, smiling while he/she is explaining how sad, how hurt or how she/he failed terrible.
You will make this person feel you are know longer interested to hear what he/she is trying to talk about. This will make him or her put you out of the list of the people he should consider when he is having a problem to solve. Besides, it will develop a negative feeling.
He/she will have a different opinion on your character and how you relate to people. If he/she goes around saying how bad you are before different people, will it have build your relationship or destroyed it? If you were expecting a favor from them eventually you would have missed it.
I`m not trying to say you should develop this trait only when you are in need of a favor, instead make it your lifestyle. This will not only make people love but also make them feel you are the right person to lead them through various issues. People want people who understands them, their needs, their rights and their conditions.
When it comes to part of helping him or her with her his/her problem. Before you give him/her your help. Share with him/her a situation similar to his/hers. Tell him/her how you handled the situation. Explains to him/her how in away that it will make that person feel he is not the only one who have under gone such a problem. This will console that person and create a good relationship between the two of you. He/she will put much trust into you and this will make him or her be much open to you. This will make love to develop.
To conclude. We have to know that not all people will appreciate your effort to make them love you. We will not be loved with all people we expect them to love us back.We should live with this, Expecting less from the people we value will hurt us less. It will not make us being individualists but gives us a more reliable way to handle our lives with people around us.
How can you make people love you staying to the fact of empathy?
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Originally published at https://lifebloggerxz.blogspot.com on July 16, 2019.