6 Reasons Why Your Relationship Is Boring (+how to fix)

Abduljabbar Ramadhan Ali
12 min readMar 15, 2021

If your relationship is boring, you need to find a way to make it fun again.

In this article, I’ll be talking about how you can turn a boring relationship to be exciting and fun.

There are so many things that can make a relationship boring.

At the beginning of a relationship, things are usually so awesome! You can even start advertising your relationship all over the internet.

Anyway, I never recommended this when you are in a new relationship.

You can check the article so that you can see more about what you should do and what you shouldn’t do in your new relationship.

Your relationship at the start might be so lit. You will be surprised after 3 months.

Most relationships start to get boring after 3 months.

Love will never remain the same as you expect it to be. Love changes over time.

Love can grow or decline depending on what you do in that relationship.

So, first, let me start with the reasons why some relationships turn to be boring in the first 3 months while others continue to be more exciting.

You have to add excitement to your relationship. So that it continues to be fun and amazing.

You might like this: (8 ways) how to add excitement to a relationship.

6 Reasons Why Your Relationship Is Boring.

Here are the reasons why some relationships turn to be boring after a while;

1. Couples lose their energy.

When a relationship is at the beginning people usually have this magical energy that keeps couples going.

This energy is usually brought by love when it’s still stronger.

As we all know when something is new we usually have this habit of holding it so carefully like it’s priceless porcelain.

We know that when it falls all that will be left is broken pieces which are useless after all.

The same way you take care of your new shoes when they are new is the same way people usually take care of their relationships when they are new.

When your shoes start getting torn do you have the same energy to take care of them?

So, when the relationship is some months old people lose that energy to take care of it and add more exciting things.

The moment the energy is gone is when the relationship starts to get boring.

It’s very important to maintain energy.

I’ll talk about the solution for this when I will be talking about how to fix a boring relationship.

2. When couples stop spending time together.

Time is a very important factor when it comes to a relationship. It can either make the relationship super fun or boring.

For all relationships to survive and be strong all the time, couples need to spend quality time with each other.

The moment couples stop spending time together they lose that momentum that the relationship had.

If it was going on amazing and so exciting that will have been interfered.

When the relationship is at best momentum couples have to maintain it by keeping on spending time with each other.

The more partners spend time with each other the more they are connected strongly.

At the time when the connection is strong that relationship will hardly turn to be boring.

When time is cut off it creates a distance between two people and this can make a relationship turn to be boring.

The more you spend time away from the person you love the more you get used to being away from him or her.

If this happens then your relationship might even turn to be feeling like a friendship instead of feeling like a relationship.

3. When couples have nothing in common.

This is another reason why some relationships might turn to be boring after a while.

Anyway, it’s not a must for couples to have something in common for their relationship to survive.

A relationship can survive even if you have nothing in common. It’s not a guarantee that that relationship will be boring.

For more about having someone with who you have nothing in common with don’t forget to read the article above.

Though, there is a high chance that that relationship will be boring after a while.

This is because if you have nothing in common to share with your partner this it is obvious that you won’t be sharing most of the things that you all enjoy doing.

If you are into secular music and your partner enjoys religious music will you be able to share anything?

It will be impossible to share anything about your music hobbies.

So this might turn the relationship a bit dull.

Imagine the situation whereby the person you spend time with likes the same things you do.

The movies you watch, the music you listen to and the books 📚 you read, it will be very hard for you to get bored around each other because you will have a lot of things to talk about and share.

You will all be excited to share every moment you have because you are all into the same things.

4. If one partner is in the relationship does all the creativity that brings excitement and fun.

This is another reason that can make a relationship boring.

For a relationship to be full of fun all the couple have to contribute to the fun of that relationship.

This is because when one partner is damn tired or sick in which we all know that a person who is sick can’t be energetic.

This will be the turn for the other partner to keep the relationship going. In such a way, that relationship will always be full of fun.

There is nothing cute than having someone who can make you smile even in the middle of your most tragic moment.

That is what a relationship is all about. If you can’t find this in your relationship reevaluate your relationship.

Happiness is what everyone is looking for in a relationship.

If in a relationship only one person is actively making the relationship fun without having a backup from his or her partner then that relationship is at risk of getting boring.

This is because if at any chance that person gets fades and gives away the creativity then that relationship will be boring.

5. If the couples get faded up with each other.

It happens in relationships. This is one of the reasons that even takes couples to the extent of cheating on each other.

You might like this: 7 top reasons why ladies cheat in relationships and 5 reasons why men cheat in relationships.

Several reasons make couples to be faded up with each other.

You can find these reasons in this article.

The moment couples in a relationship are faded up with each other the passion of love between them will start decreasing.

The spark of love will be getting dimmer and dimmer every single day.

When this happens the effort, the energy all is taken away.

This is the moment when relationships will start having so many complications.

This will bring constant fights with arguments that will keep on crashing the relationship.

Instead of the relationship being exciting it will turn out to be boring.

6. Lack of specified goals in a relationship.

Goals are important and without them a relationship will get boring.

A relationship without goals is like a journey without a destination.

It will get boring obviously. So, if a relationship lacks specified goals it will turn to be boring.

Relationship goals are what keep the relationship active as the couples strive to get the best for their relationship.

The moment you have a specified goal with your bae you will always be united.

What you all fight for will make you happy 😊 and active.

This is because you will always have to stand up and fight every challenge you come across to reach your goals.

This keeps the relationship busy and active. This kind of relationship will never be boring.

Here are some relationship goals you can try to implement in your relationship.

Now, that you have known the reasons why some relationships might turn to be boring.

Let us find a way of making a boring relationship fun again.

How to fix a boring relationship.

If a relationship is boring you should find a way of fixing it before it ends.

Trust me, no one will be willing to stay in a boring relationship.

We all look for the happiness and I will not stay in a boring relationship either.

Instead of letting go of any relationship that becomes boring here how to fix a boring relationship.

This because no matter the relationship you will enter it will at one point become boring that is why it’s important to know how to fix this.

You can fix a boring relationship by;

1. Maintain the energy that you started the relationship with.

As I stated earlier, that when couples lose the energy in a relationship it will become boring.

So, it’s very important to maintain the energy that you all started the relationship with for it to be fun again.

So, how can you maintain the energy that you started with?

There no specific method of maintaining it because it will turn to a point everything will be plain.

By plain, I mean the energy will never be there always. It will come a time whereby there will be none left and your relationship will depend on other factors for it to be fun again.

The only way you can maintain the energy is to take it easy in a relationship. Don’t move too fast or too slow.

Moving fast is something I don’t recommend from my perspective.

If you start moving fast in a relationship you might use all the energy at the beginning and when you are at the climax you might even fail to make a step.

So, it’s important to conserve your energy for you to make the best out of it.

Take it easy. It’s not good to spend 24 hours together with your partner when your relationship is at the beginning.

Use even 12 hours and keep the rest for next time.

Doing this will make your partner even miss you more.

If you make it 24 hours you will waste your energy very early and you will have none left to use when your partner needs you the most.

2. Be creative when needed to.

Creativity is what is needed to fix boring relationships.

If you want to make your relationship be filled with fun again then add creativity to your character.

It’s not hard to be creative. All you need is to know when things have to change.

Repetition of events can make a relationship so boring.

So, being creative is all about getting rid of the repetitive things in your relationship schedule.

This goes widely from dates to getting intimate.

Creativity in a relationship covers a huge part.

So, in short, if you want to make your relationship fun again you have to know when to change things at the right place and time.

You can learn more about relationships to be more creative.

Watch reality shows that talk about relationships.

Another thing that is to be included in the creativity list is understanding your partner also.

Get to know your partner deeply and understand him or her this will make it easy for you to show your creativity.

This is one of the ways you can fix a boring relationship.

3. Show each other the things that you all find exciting.

It doesn’t take much effort to fix boring relationships.

You all need to be open with each other and share the things that you like to do.

Share everything that you would want to do with each other to make your relationship fun again.

The moment you show each other the things that you all find exciting doing then you will know how to take care of each other.

Despite knowing how to take care you will also know how to make your relationship fun.

The fun of a relationship comes from what couples do.

So, if you all know the exciting things that make you happy then this will fix the boring issue in your relationship.

4. Spend time together having fun.

If you want to fix your relationship for it not to be boring, don’t just spend time together have fun also.

Be playful with each other all the time you are together.

There is no need to keep serious faces with each other. Watch comedy together and laugh.

Make the time you spend with each other fun. You can do this by choosing wisely the things that you do together.

Try dangerous and exciting things like taking a ride on a roller coaster 🎢. Do things that are scary but fun.

I can assure you things like these will always make your relationship amazing and fun.

You can choose to enjoy the things you share in common.

In my case, I would go swimming with my bae, cook together, sing together even if I don’t know the lyrics that well, put on my girlfriend’s t-shirts and make fun of them and so many other things.

With that short example, I have shared with you do you think there is a chance of making the relationship boring?

Try it and you will find it fixing your boring relationship so effectively.

5. Make your relationship goals and follow them strictly.

I love relationship goals and I like talking about them. They can fix a boring relationship exclusively.

If your relationship is boring one of the reasons it might be that you all have nothing in common that keeps the energy going in the relationship.

Even if you have no common interest in each other but these goals that you will create will give you a reason to have something in common.

The moment you all have something to fight for you will be busy working on the same results that you all need.

This can happen if you make your goals together in that relationship.

The first goal I will think of making right now with my girlfriend will be opening a joint bank account so that we can start saving money for our vacation.

It sounds silly but it is something that can keep a relationship active.

Once the goal is accomplished we will celebrate that and that will be funnier.

Every time we accomplish the goals it will make our relationship have a new perspective.

This will keep on making our relationship new thus never boring at all.

So, goals are very effective when it comes to making a relationship fun again.

Use them to make your relationship exciting and fun.

6. Work on increasing the love you have for each other day by day.

This is another way to fix a boring relationship.

The moment your connection between the two of you gets weak you will start losing interest in each other.

It’s important to work on things that increase your love for each other and build your relationship.

Focus on things that add value to your relationship and avoid anything that might bring doubts in your relationship.

Work on building a stronger connection that will make you want each other more and more every single day.

Anyway, this is not something that can happen overnight.

It takes time to build such a relationship with someone. All you need is effort and being patient with what you are hoping to build.

It’s very hard for people who love each other deeply to find their relationship boring.

So, if you manage to pull this one out then you would have managed to fix your boring relationship.

Is it normal to be in a boring relationship?

Being in a boring relationship sometimes it’s normal because a relationship will never always be fun. It will be accompanied by a change of events. Some of the events might make the relationship exciting while others will be boring.

Why do I get bored in a relationship so easily?

You might be getting bored in a relationship so easily because you lack the creativity that should keep the relationship exciting. Another thing that might cause that is the person you are dating is so dormant. So, you should learn how to be creative and teach your partner too.

To sum it up, if your relationship is boring you should search for ways of fixing it be it ends.

Did you know that a being relationship it can cause it to fail?

If your partner finds the relationship boring he or she might end up cheating when he or she finds someone else who can keep things entertaining for him or her.

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Did you find your relationship boring and you thought of ending it? Leave your comment below. Thanks for reading, see you in my next article.

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Originally published at https://herbeautyonly.blogspot.com on March 15, 2021.



Abduljabbar Ramadhan Ali

Hello, I'm Abduljabar from Mombasa, Kenya. I'm a passionate blogger and a friendly man. Here is my blogs herbeautyonly.blogspot.com (Her Beauty)